Appetizer
What is your favorite beverage?
Diet Dr Pepper!
Soup
Name 3 things that are on your computer desk at home or work.
Max the kitten, telephone, the flowers Princess gave me! :)
Salad
On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being highest), how honest do you think you are?
6
Main Course
If you could change the name of one city in the world, what would you rename it and why?
Hummm I would change Ruidoso, NM to Tourist town USA! Why well of course for all the freaking tourists going skiing and not paying attention to the snow on the roads!
Dessert
What stresses you out? What calms you down?
Stress=Change, my kiddos, broken things
Calm=Max my kitten, cuddling with my kiddos, sex(the aftermath) lol
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Friday, January 18, 2008
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Sometimes
I am sad and confused not sure where to turn or what decisions are the best! I wish things were as easy as they sometimes seem and I could just forget all the bs that has happened in the past! Sometimes I wish I could go back to being a child at least I would not have the heart wrenching decisions to make that I do now!
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
WW - This is what happens when the boy loses track of his snake! LOL
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Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Monday, January 14, 2008
Sunday, January 13, 2008
Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting
Here is a quick overview of the Ten Basic Principles:
1. What you do matters.“Tell yourself that every day. How you treat and respond to your child should come from a knowledgeable, deliberate sense of what you want to accomplish. Always ask yourself: What effect will my decision have on my child?”
2. You cannot be too loving.“When it comes to genuine expressions of warmth and affection, you cannot love your child too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love. What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love—things like leniency, lowered expectations or material possessions.”
3. Be involved in your child’s life."Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs you to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”
4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child.“Make sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s development. You may wish you could slow down or freeze-frame your child’s life, but this is the last thing he wants. You may be fighting getting older, but all he wants is to grow up. The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say ‘no’ all the time is what’s motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.”
5. Establish and set rules.“If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you are not around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself.”
6. Foster your child’s independence.“Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need both. Accepting that it is normal for children to push for autonomy is absolutely key to effective parenting. Many parents mistakenly equate their child’s independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else.”
7. Be consistent.“If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion, or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”
8. Avoid harsh discipline.“Of all the forms of punishment that parents use, the one with the worst side effects is physical punishment. Children who are spanked, hit or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.”
9. Explain your rules and decisions.“Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to. Generally, parents over explain to young children and under explain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He does not have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have.”
10. Treat your child with respect.“The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully. You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.”
There is no guarantee that following these guidelines will result in perfect parents... remember, there is no such thing!
I found this info at http://www.chiff.com/a/good-parenting.htm
1. What you do matters.“Tell yourself that every day. How you treat and respond to your child should come from a knowledgeable, deliberate sense of what you want to accomplish. Always ask yourself: What effect will my decision have on my child?”
2. You cannot be too loving.“When it comes to genuine expressions of warmth and affection, you cannot love your child too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love. What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love—things like leniency, lowered expectations or material possessions.”
3. Be involved in your child’s life."Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs you to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”
4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child.“Make sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s development. You may wish you could slow down or freeze-frame your child’s life, but this is the last thing he wants. You may be fighting getting older, but all he wants is to grow up. The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say ‘no’ all the time is what’s motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.”
5. Establish and set rules.“If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you are not around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself.”
6. Foster your child’s independence.“Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need both. Accepting that it is normal for children to push for autonomy is absolutely key to effective parenting. Many parents mistakenly equate their child’s independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else.”
7. Be consistent.“If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion, or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”
8. Avoid harsh discipline.“Of all the forms of punishment that parents use, the one with the worst side effects is physical punishment. Children who are spanked, hit or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.”
9. Explain your rules and decisions.“Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to. Generally, parents over explain to young children and under explain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He does not have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have.”
10. Treat your child with respect.“The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully. You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.”
There is no guarantee that following these guidelines will result in perfect parents... remember, there is no such thing!
I found this info at http://www.chiff.com/a/good-parenting.htm
Saturday, January 12, 2008
PhotoHunt: Skinny
This week's PhotoHunt is Skinny! Since I am at my mom's using her computer to do this while mine is still down and nothing in my house is skinny except for Princess, I took a photo of one of the pictures mom has on the back of her bathroom door!! lol When I see this breed of dog I always LOL and definitely think SKINNY!! *Please excuse the underline I cannot figure out how to turn it off on her computer* hehehe
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Well that's all for now folks!
Soooo my Internet/cable/phone are down for the weekend since they are provided by the same company and currently we are having a bit of a spat! I should be back up and running by Monday afternoon! Thank goodness cause I am missing my e-friends here on the blog world and on my mommy forum TERRIBLY!!! :(
Friday, January 11, 2008
Friday's Feast
Appetizer
What is your middle name? Denee
Would you change any of your names if you could? I don't know maybe
If so, what would you like to be called? Phoenix :) lol
Soup
If you were a fashion designer, which fabrics, colors, and styles would you probably use the most?
I LOVE the color purple so I would definately be using it often. I also like green, orange, pink and black! Cotton is what I wear most of so I would probably use it most, but I also like silk and fleece! Styles gosh hum maybe casual, Renaissance type fashions.
Name 3 things you can see at this moment. My sprite, the lego table and the vaccum!
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What is your middle name? Denee
Would you change any of your names if you could? I don't know maybe
If so, what would you like to be called? Phoenix :) lol
Soup
If you were a fashion designer, which fabrics, colors, and styles would you probably use the most?
I LOVE the color purple so I would definately be using it often. I also like green, orange, pink and black! Cotton is what I wear most of so I would probably use it most, but I also like silk and fleece! Styles gosh hum maybe casual, Renaissance type fashions.
Salad
What is your least favorite chore, and why?My least favorite chore is cleaning the bathrooms. Mainly because it is disgusting, takes too much time and needs to be cleaned constantly in this house!
Main Course
What is something that really frightens you, and can you trace it back to an event in your life?
Swimming in water that I cannot see the bottom of like lakes, rivers I am fine in a pool! I think it goes back to my dad grabbing my feet in the water when we would go to the lake when I was a kid. He always thought it was really funny to swim under me and grab/pull on my feet and toes!!
Dessert
Name 3 things you can see at this moment. My sprite, the lego table and the vaccum!
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Wednesday, January 9, 2008
WW - Mabel the boys new pet!
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Monday, January 7, 2008
Give Me Five Monday
This week's topic for Give Me Five Monday is:"Give Me Five hopes or goals you have for the new year! This one is very simple, no resolutions allowed though! I don't like them!!"
1. My biggest goal and hope for this year is too keep losing weight consistently throughout the year this is why I have added the ticker to the top of my page as embarrassing as it is!! Even if I do not lose pounds every week, to see a consistent pattern will be AWESOME!
2. My next goal is too try not to scream and yell so much when it comes to my kids! As much as I do not want to admit it my yelling has gotten out of control. I have got to figure out a way to get the children to listen to me without resorting to screaming! If you have any advice I welcome it all!
3. Another one of my goals this year is to make the right choices! I am not really able to elaborate more on this particular topic, but it is an important one none the less!
4. One of my hopes for this year is that my little family will be happy and healthy with no major dramas IE deaths, broken bones!! **crosses fingers**
5. Last but certainly not least I hope that I pass my GED test in two weeks with flying colors or at least the first time around!! Please send good thoughts and vibes my way I can use them! lol
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Sunday, January 6, 2008
10 Things I would like to accomplish this year!
1. To finish my G.E.D
2. To be more patient with the kids!
3. To talk instead of scream so much and hope it gets there attention!
4. To adopt healthier habits to help me on my way to losing weight!
5. To not worry about what anyone else thinks, no matter what no one is perfect!
6. To contribute as much as we can to Goodwill and Charity!
7. To spend some time on me, meaning having mommy nights out and bubble bath nights etc!!
8. Answering the phone more cause I know I can be weird about it!
9. Trying to overcome my anxiety over the little things and be more at peace with my situation!
10. Liking myself!
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2. To be more patient with the kids!
3. To talk instead of scream so much and hope it gets there attention!
4. To adopt healthier habits to help me on my way to losing weight!
5. To not worry about what anyone else thinks, no matter what no one is perfect!
6. To contribute as much as we can to Goodwill and Charity!
7. To spend some time on me, meaning having mommy nights out and bubble bath nights etc!!
8. Answering the phone more cause I know I can be weird about it!
9. Trying to overcome my anxiety over the little things and be more at peace with my situation!
10. Liking myself!
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Saturday, January 5, 2008
PhotoHunt: Delicious
This weeks PhotoHunt theme is Delicious so when I found out that Wolf was baking a cake for mom's birthday I knew what my picture would be right away! :) So last night I went over to mom's to take a picture of Wolf's awesome Pineapple Upside Down cake!!
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PhotoHunt
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PhotoHunt
Friday, January 4, 2008
Friday's Feast
Appetizer
When was the last time you received a surprise in the mail, and what was it?
Gosh I have not received anything by surprise in the mail in so long I have no idea! lol
Soup
If you could have a summer and/or winter home, where would you want it to be?
If I could have a summer home I would want it to be in Ruidoso, NM because it is BEAUTIFUL and the weather never gets too hot, plus we could visit family!
Salad
When was the last time you received a surprise in the mail, and what was it?
Gosh I have not received anything by surprise in the mail in so long I have no idea! lol
Soup
If you could have a summer and/or winter home, where would you want it to be?
If I could have a summer home I would want it to be in Ruidoso, NM because it is BEAUTIFUL and the weather never gets too hot, plus we could visit family!
Salad
Pick one: pineapple, orange, banana, apple, cherry.
Pineapple
Main Course
Describe the nicest piece of clothing that you own.
Hummmmm gosh nice clothes huh do I have any? lol I would say my nicest piece of clothing would be my little black dress. It is made of a silky material not sure what kind of blend it is, black and sleeveless with a zipper up the back! Oh and it is about knee length so perfect for all kinds of different affairs! :)
Dessert
If you could forget one whole day from your life, which day would you choose to wipe from your memory?
Wow intense! I honestly cannot think of one day I would erase from memory because each one that was bad has taught me a valuable lesson that I NEEDED to learn so that would kind of defeat the purpose. So if I would still have learned the lesson etc etc than I would choose to forget April 29th 2007.
Thursday, January 3, 2008
I love you!
I love that you make an effort!
I love that you make me feel special!
I love that you make me feel that you care!
I love that you tell me you love me everyday!
I love that you go out of your way to make me feel like I am the most important person in your world!
I love that you make me feel special!
I love that you make me feel that you care!
I love that you tell me you love me everyday!
I love that you go out of your way to make me feel like I am the most important person in your world!
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
WW - New Years Eve
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Three Peas in a Pod!
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Tuesday, January 1, 2008
The kids computer FINALLY!
I took down the Christmas tree this week and in it's place is the kids new/used computer WOOHOO!!! I have finally gotten it set up thanks in most part due to my dad Mike he ROCKS!! :)So here is before I took down the decorations: 
And here it is with the new desk and computer minus the Christmas stuff! 
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